Why Russian Women Russian dating agency new york to Leave Russia? By Elena Petrova  I hear this question all the time, from men and media, “Why Russian women want to leave Russia?

Another popular question is, “Why Russian women want to marry American men? Whilst those questions seem to be different, the answer to all of the them is exactly the same: well, they don’t! You may ask me then why there are so many ads of Russian women seeking men abroad, on the Internet, seeking men in countries like United States, Canada, Australia and Europe – yes, this is true, but this doesn’t mean Russian women WANT to leave Russia or marry western men. Russian women want to marry good men and have a normal family and children, and it’s not always possible in Russia for all of them. There is huge demographic disproportion in Russia with only 88 men for 100 women. Second reason is the well-publicized alcohol abuse in Russia by men, which results in poor health conditions and abusive behavior of men. It is a custom where men get together in groups after work and get drunk, then go home.

I am sure it will change with time, but this was the reason why I decided, after many years of trying to get married in Russia to a good man, to look for a relationship elsewhere. Now, I left Russia in 1998 and I thought things could have changed there a lot since that time. I know people in Russia have a very different lifestyle now than 12 years ago, just like lots of things changed here too! I can tell you living conditions and better life were NOT the reasons why I started to look for a husband abroad.

I simply wanted to get married and have a husband and kids and my own family! Russian women want to find a good man for marriage – this is the goal, not leaving Russia or immigration. Since marriage is such a high value for women, men are in high demand. They get spoiled by choice and women trying to please them to either get married or keep the husband from wondering. Men get more and more arrogant with age and start following the cultural norm of hard drinking with their pals and getting home drunk and abusing a wife. It doesn’t happen with newlyweds but years after.

Since this behavior is so common, most women stay in an abusive marriage as there is not much chance to re-marry for a woman with kids or if she is over 25. 25 a woman is considered a “spinster” if she is not married with kids. In other words, good men in Russia are rare – by a good man I mean a man who doesn’t drink, doesn’t sleep around, doesn’t abuse his wife and is able to hold a stable job and provide for the family. Here, it’s the norm and men who behave abusively would be quickly sorted out or left without a wife.